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If you’ve noticed more than one voice in your head, fighting for your attention, don’t worry: you’re not crazy. In fact, it’s quite normal to experience these different voices popping up at random moments and influencing how we perceive ourselves and the world around us.

To be more accurate, these “voices” are thought patterns we form over a long period of time. Oftentimes, we can tell what circumstances prompt one voice to start talking. Our inner cheerleader comes out when we accomplish something we’re proud of, for instance. Other times, it’s nearly impossible to pinpoint what exactly triggers a certain thought pattern, and if you’re not careful here, it becomes difficult to discern between what’s real and what’s a lie the voice in your head is telling you.

I want to talk about the worst liar of them all. In my book, I call it the “self-saboteur.” He/she is the voice that whispers, “You’re not good enough. Nobody will trust you. Nobody will notice you. It won’t work, it never does, you might as well stop trying, it’s hopeless.”

The self-saboteur is crafty, resilient, and an almost universal phenomenon. How do you keep this negative voice in check?

In his ARTICLE on negative thinking patterns, life coach John-Paul Flintoff advises that we externalize the self-saboteur. The brain is flexible, and continues to develop past childhood. We can take advantage of this and disrupt negative thinking patterns. “The first step,” says Flintoff, “is to become aware of your automatic negative thoughts–and for me, anyway, that’s much easier (and more fun, actually) if I personify the inner critic, with a sketch, and give him/her a voice.”

Flintoff’s inner critic is shriveled and bald, with dark shadows under his eyes. He looks worried and avoids eye contact. He stays in the shadows but comes out to whisper hurtful things.

By creating such a detailed image of his self-saboteur, he is able to distance himself from this bad thinking pattern. It’s not him talking, it’s the shriveled liar in the corner.

Externalizing your self-saboteur takes practice. Old habits, and thought patterns definitely count as habits, take time and effort to break. But once you begin distancing yourself from your negative inner-critic, this thought pattern loses an incredible amount of power. As you continue learning to identify when and how the critic starts talking, you’ll get better and better at learning how to stop listening.

Another suggestion of Flintoff’s (which I find quite wise) is to think of someone in your life you greatly admire. The next time your self-saboteur takes the floor, imagine that this person is defending you. What would they say? If you’re honest (this is your defender’s turn to talk, so don’t allow the inner-critic any influence here), you’ll find that your defender has a great deal to say on your behalf. By doing this simple mental exercise, it becomes clear that most of the time, your self-saboteur is talking utter garbage, and you’re giving him/her a platform to let it get to you. Don’t do that! You’re so much more valuable, so much more loved, and so much more worthy than your saboteur will ever give you credit for, so stop wasting your time listening and put a sock in that liar’s mouth.

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Originally Posted January 25th, 2016 @ 04:01pm by: Joanne Meehl

handshake_closeupAfter many years in the job search field, and almost 13 on my own, I have seen many things from candidates that work wonderfully in their searches.

And things that they put in their way.

One unnecessary hurdle is hiding an old entry-level job because the candidate believes it wasn’t that long ago so it shows them as too inexperienced for the next step in their career. I’ve seen this from senior managers ready to be a Director, or Directors ready to be VPs.

This is not wise. First, everyone knows you started somewhere in your career. But when you leave out “the first step”, smushing your earlier Specialist job into the later Manager role, you are hiding one key thing about yourself: that you were promoted and have had a meteoric rise. That’s what is outstanding about you! So why hide it?

If you’re doing so because you think you don’t have the room to give many details about the job, don’t worry: you needn’t add much material there. It’s in the next job listed that you say, “Promoted to this management role based on outstanding performance in my work as Specialist”. Adjust that statement for your level and you will then be communicating to your reader — of your resume or LinkedIn — a wonderful achievement.

Recruiters in particular like to see your career path until now. They want to see where you started and what you’ve done since; the decisions you’ve made and the successes you’ve had. And little speaks more of success than being selected by your senior management to handle more tasks and people: a promotion.

 

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Adam Wallschlaeger

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There was a time, not all that long ago, when the word brand meant something similar to everyone.  When you think of branding you think of Ford, Nike, McDonald’s and Apple.  They are companies that represent products that we all know, like and trust.  They help define our image, and tell the world what we stand for.

These mega companies will likely always exist.  But even if the aforementioned companies fail, others will take their place.  But a new revolution is underway.  I like to call it the Self-Branding Revolution.

The first time this was presented to me, I was a deer in the headlights.  I seized the opportunity to sit down with a VP of the company I was working for.  I could sense that he knew something that was eluding me, and could tell he was on his way to bigger and better things.  He told me to immediately start building “Adam Inc.”  This, as I was told, was a process of building my skills, education, and experience.  I had a hard time wrapping my mind around this, because I was used to showing up at work, doing what was on my to do list, and then heading home.  In the past, building your skills, education and experience was what you did to boost your resume to GET the job you currently HAD.  Once you HAD it, you just lived your days awaiting your next pay raise right?

Flash forward 6 years.  We live in a whole new world.  Social media has given us an opportunity to brand ourselves.  Anyone, anywhere can quickly become a thought leader and even expert in any particular niche.  You don’t have to go back to college and spend 25K per year to do it.  Most of the resources you need are free, or very inexpensive.  You don’t have to spend 40+ hours at a dead end job.  You can now pick what you are passionate about in life, figure out a way to brand yourself and support the lifestyle you want to live.  But it all starts with the Self-Branding Revolution.  You are your own Ford, Nike, McDonald’s or Apple.  You can set up your own website, brand yourself on social media platforms, and automate a system that allows you to profit from your new skills, education and experiences.  It’s not easy, and there is a lot to learn, but life if so valuable and so short, we really can’t afford to waste any more time building someone else’s brand. It’s a brave new world!  Will you join the Self-Branding Revolution?

 

Adam Wallschlaeger will be one of our featured speakers on August 23rd, 2016 from 9-11:30 a.m. in Maple Grove. To register for this free event, CLICK HERE or go to our “Event’s” tab above and learn more about what more he will share to affect your Job Search!

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